Always Have Shoes
Take clothes with you into the Shower
Evacuate... Don't be that one person who doesn't
Hopeful these tips will help you during your college years and you will be prepared for a surprise fire drill.
-Xoxo Piper
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In college, fire alarms ad fire drills are never planned. It does not matter what your doing or what time it is, a fire alarm could always go off. Finals tomorrow and need a lot of sleep? Fire Alarm goes off at 3 am. Showering? Fire Alarm goes off. On your friends floor with no shoes and its snowing outside? Fire Alarm goes off. Enough examples? I hope so because it always happen when you never expect it. Always Have ShoesSpeaking from personal experience, always have shoes. Just a few days ago, while Ellie, Meredith, and I were hanging out in Ethan's floor lobby, the fire alarm started to go off. So that you understand, I never wear shoes when we are going to visit Ethan because he literally lives the floor below us. I never have to leave the building to get to the floor and I don't need shoes. As soon as the alarm went off, I realized "oh shit, we have to evacuate. oh shit, i have no shoes." I had to go outside in my socks. There was no way I could get my show from Room 125 in time to make it outside. Always wear shoes to where you are hanging out somewhere else because you never know when you will have to evacuate, but that does not mean you have to wear them the entire time. Take clothes with you into the ShowerThe most embarrassing thing is when the fire drill goes off and you are showering. At first you may not hear it, but when you do, you have to evaluate immediately. Wearing clothes or just a towel, your RA will force you to leave your dorm. Standing outside in a towel is embarrassing but your RA's aren't allowed for you to stay in case it isn't just a drill. The past fire alarm we had in our building, there was a total of 2 girls wearing towels. Don't be one of those girl, just keep clothes near the shower so you can quickly slip it on. Evacuate... Don't be that one person who doesn'tIf the fire alarm is going out, evacuate. Please don't be that person who refuses to leave because it's just a "drill" because the RA's will catch you and you will get in a lot of trouble. Just walk outside for the 15 minutes it takes for them to clear the building and then you are free to do whatever you want. Refusing to evacuate can get you in a lot of trouble and at our college, you can even be fined, so simply evacuate.
Hopeful these tips will help you during your college years and you will be prepared for a surprise fire drill. -Xoxo Piper
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Ethan and I are currently trying to figure a lot of things out. We don't know what will happen in the future, but we are trying to focus on the present. In order to do this, we're both attempting small talk.
Ethan just came back from a Lorde concert over the weekend. When he returned to the dorm, we invited him over to room 125 to hang out. It was really awkward between the two of us. Piper and Meredith were texting me during the end of our get together and telling me I should "walk him out" "as friends". It was incredibly awkward because Ethan had already started walking to the lobby door when Meredith yelled at him to stop. Piper eventually coaxed me out there to talk to him. We sat down and talked about our weekends and how we were doing. Normal small talk. Just trying to ge to know each other. During all of this though, Piper and Meredith decided they needed to "fill up their water bottles" multiple times. Most people would be really annoyed that their friends kept interrupting their conversation, but I was totally fine with it. It surprisingly made it a lot less awkward because Ethan and I had something to laugh about. It also shows that my friends actually care about me and wanted to make sure nothing was going too fast again. So even though it was really awkward and uncomfortable at first, it was a good step in the right direction towards "getting together" again. <3 Ellie The Talking StageBefore your relationship begins, you normally enter the "Talking Stage." In this stage, you get to know the person before deciding whether or not to continue to an official relationship. The best way to handle the talking stage is through texting or group hangs. Texting allows you to get to know each other without having to be together all the time and group hangs allow for you to get to know the person by conversations shared by other people. These are some of my tips for surviving the "Talking Stage":
Listen and Learn. The point of the talking stage is to get to know the other person. Listen to everything the other person says. Its important to learn what the other person is like before jumping into a serious relationship. Don't just be the talker, be the listener. If you talk the entire time, you won't learn much about the other person. While texting, read the entire message to learn about the other person, rather than just skimming it in order to reply. Talk About Random Shit. The best way to get to know a person is to talk about the random things. Don't talk about ewwy gooy feelings all the time, talk about stuff. If all you ever talk about it how you feel, you won't get to know the person and what they like. You will base your relationship solely on the feelings they feel rather than the person they are. A guy I dated, named Parker, we had a game we would play. While texting, one of us would say "let's play question game" and that meant we could ask any question and the other person had to answer. After the person answered, they would get to ask a question. It made it so that we could talk about anything and it gave us a chance to learn more about each other by asking the questions that we were wondering. It took away a wall between us and opened it up for us to be truthful to each other. We didn't miss use the "question game" by asking "why do you like me" or ewwy gooy feeling questions. The questions had to be about random things that would help us learn new things about each other. It made it easier to keep small talk going and it helped us get to know each other in a different way. If you hang out in group hangs, then that makes sure no ewwy gooy feeling stuff is discussed and keeps you talking about simple yet random topics with other people. Make Sure He Understands Your Intentions. Sometimes, in the "Talking Stage" signals can be miss interpreted. If during the "Talking Stage" all you guys talk about is feelings and about how much you "care" then he could take that as a flirtationship. Don't know what a flirtationship is? Its when two people are only together to have someone to flirt with and compliment each other. In a flirtationship, the people truly don't know the other, they just know how to complement them. If you want a relationship, it takes so much more than telling someone how "beautiful they are" and how "you can't stop thinking about them." A relationship is about being there for someone even if they are upset or mad, it is about knowing what a person is thinking and what makes them who they are. When you only talk about feelings with a guy, he will think that you don't want to get to know him as a person but just as a person to flirt with. So here the tip: Make sure it's clear to a guy you want a relationship by getting to know him, rather than just a flirtationship with only flirting. The "Talking Stage" is one of the most important stages in building a relationship. You have to get to know the other person before having a serious and meaningful relationship. So don't skip this stage of else, you might enter a relationship without knowing the person truly. In summary: Just talk about random shit and make sure to listen to what the other person has to say. -Xoxo Piper Bringing things from home to hang up in your dorm room will make it easier to adjust to living away. Thanks to Pinterest, it has become a thing to make your dorm room as cute as possible, with matching bedspreads with your roommate, and adorable DIY picture frames. They also make it seem as if you have all of this room, which is a LIE. Here are some of my ideas which I used to make my dorm more like home. Cute bedspreads:There are so many great places to get your bedspread. I got mine from Macy's with their door buster sale. It was originally $160, it was on sale for $80, and then the doorbuster took half off. There are other places to look too! Try Target, Bed Bath and Beyond, searching online, or sometimes your school allows you to order through a company to get your bedspreads for a student discount. Don't worry about matching your roommate (s) it will be better if you get what you like! Adorable monograms:I love monograms, on anything and everything! My aunt monogrammed my towels for me as a graduation present. I think putting your name or monogram on anything and everything makes it so much more personal and more like you! Colorful Towels:You can get whatever towel color you want. I went with something that matched my bedspread (although you can't really tell since my bedspread is in my room and my towels are in the bathroom), but I still love the color. Make sure you choose a color that you not only like, but will be easy to wash! Pretty frames:Don't forget to decorate them! A colorful picture frame with some pictures of your family and friends from back home will make it feel like they are there with you! Creative Wall Hangings:Hanging stuff on your walls is great, especially if its something cute that says your name! I love putting my name and initials on everything, and it just makes it seem like this tiny little space is actually yours. Pinterest has great ideas for customizing wooden letters! Bright Christmas lights:Although I am waiting until Christmas to put them up, some people love putting up christmas lights around their bed. I think it is super cute! Just make sure when you are plugging them in to have an extension cord and not to start a fire! The last thing you want to do is be the one who set off the fire alarm! Love,
Meredith You may think you have everything figured out when you are coming to college, but there are things that no one warns you about. You won't sleep until noon everydayPeople assume that coming to college you will get to spend all your time sleeping and attending classes in the afternoon. Newsflash. Upperclassmen get first choice on classes which means Freshman most likely will have the earlier classes. Even if you don't have class in the morning, your roommate might. So you most likely will not be sleeping late everyday. You might have boys on your floorThere are co-ed floors in most college resident halls. Our room is on a co-ed floor so we have two boys living on our floor. Now I'm going to let you in on a secret. The boys on your floors may not be the cutest, but never underestimate their friends. You never want to be caught off guard. Walking down the hall in a onezie and whoops here comes so-and-so with a his friend Mr. Hottie. You will forever be onezie girl in that Mr. Hottie's mind. Don't make that mistake.. and always be aware. Skipping classes is not a "cool" Skipping a class might seem cool and badass, but don't do it. Yes, if you have a legitimate reason it is okay, but try not to make a habit of it. If you skip class, you miss a full day of lecturing and information that will be on the test. I have a guy in my math class who have only been to class twice out of the first month. He came the first day... and test day. Do you have a guess on what he made on that test?! 27%. The professor shared that will the class so we all learned from his mistakes. Professors are never afraid to embarrass a student. So don't skip class, and try to learn something. You may not get along with your roommateNot all roommates end up like in the movies, being best friends forever. Luckily Ellie and I are amazing friends, but unfortunately Meredith and Aubrey do not have the same kind of relationship. They just can't click and get into that friend-zone, but that's okay! Not everyone is going to get along with everyone. You may think that you will be best friend from what you said through emails and texts, but it is completely different when you are living together 24/7. Don't stay your highschool self High school is so old school. Leave that person in the past. College is a opportunity to redefine yourself. I was a shy person in high school, but now I am known by almost everyone in our hall. Meredith was a band geek in high school, and now she is a super social butterfly. Ellie was super introverted in high school, and now well.... she's still the same really. Maybe a little more social? But anyways.... College is different. You can have an all new personality and life. I'm not saying lie, but you can bend the truth so you can become who you want to be. Food. Is. Expensive.You most likely are always used to your parents filling up the fridge with food and never having to worry about buying more. Parents never tell you how much everything costs. Guess what? ITS EXPENSIVE! Be prepared to spend most of your money on food. Even if your college offers a meal plan, your going to want to buy snack and drinks. Walmart will be your best friend in college. Freshman 15? More like Freshman 15 dollars in my pocket. Always carry one dollar billsYes, if you pull out a bunch of ones, the first thought most people have is: "stripper!" Yet, in college when your group of friends offer to buy pizza and split the cost, look whose prepared for splitting the cost. This stripper! Just kidding but seriously. Having small bills is the key to whether or not you can share pizza or split anything. You never want to give a college student more than they asked for because they won't give you change back. Money is tight so exact change is important. Keep your door openThe best way to make friends the first week of school, is to prop your dorm door open. Yes, that does make it so anyone can walk/see into your room, but that's the point. Meeting the other students who live on your floor is important. You will be living with them for a year so get used to them. If Meredith, Ellie, and I hadn't propped our door open, well... we would have literally no friends because our floor is the most antisocial people ever. Room 125 is the party room since we always keep our door open. -Xoxo Piper
College relationships can be difficult. You think that it would be much easier because your living so close together (one floor apart in my case), but there are still so many different parts that make up a relationship.
Ethan and I have a complicated relationship at the moment. We don't really know where we're at. Before college, neither of us had had a serious relationship, so we have no idea what we're doing. We knew each other for literally a week before we started dating. I didn't even know his major 2 days into our relationship. Within the first two days, I had a huge panic attack. Everything was moving so quickly. We had just been on our first date and we were spending all our time together. My whole world was turning upside down and everything was so different. I was scared. Piper and Meredith ran to get Ethan when they saw me burst into tears. Ethan came in and was totally okay with slowing everything down. He did everything right. He told me we didn't have to do anything I wasn't ready for. So I thought I was okay now. Okay, I've had a small panic attack, now I can move on. A few days after that we went to his room and hung out. We had some really deep conversations and talked about boundaries we would set for ourselves. We both agreed we could kiss and hold hands, but we were going to wait until marriage for more intimate activities. I was really happy we were both on the same page with everything. I felt like everything was going so well. After a while, I told him I was really tired and needed to go to bed. So he walked me up to my room fifty feet away, and we said goodnight...and something else. He said it. That four letter word. We had only been together for four days. I acted like everything was fine and went into my room where Piper was laying in her bed and Meredith was sitting on the desk chair. They asked me how everything was and I said it was good. Of course they wanted details, so I told them what happened. That's when they told me that they also thought all of this was wayyyy too fast. Of course I burst out into tears...again. So Piper and Meredith called Ethan and told him we needed to talk. Now. He came upstairs, and Piper and Meredith told him everything I had told them. He completely understood and said we could really slow it down. Both of us just had no idea how any of this is supposed to work. He ended up staying in our room until three AM. I still didn't feel like we had really fixed everything though. I thought that maybe it would be best to just sleep and everything would be better in the morning. I was wrong. I went to class that day and everything was fine. A few hours later though I was not okay. I started thinking about everything all over again. Meredith and Piper could tell something was wrong. After much conversation, Piper came up with an idea. Ethan and I could start over. Because we skipped over so much of the friend stage, we could go back and try again. So I texted Ethan again and asked him if Piper, Meredith and I could come talk to him. He said of course and let us into his room. We talked about it, and he told me that he was totally okay with this. He said it would be hard, but he was willing to try it if that's what I wanted. So we both agreed we would start all over. We still obviously wanted to hang out together, just not as a couple per say. I actually felt really good after that talk. I felt like we really could fix everything. Later that same day, he texted Piper asking if we wanted to play pool in the main lobby. We did go, but I made the mistake of staying on my laptop the whole time. This sent him the message that I didn't want this to work out and it made it awkward for both of us. He eventually left to go do homework because of this. After this, Piper texted him to get his butt back up here, and Meredith took my laptop away from me. I sat next to him, but it was still extremely awkward. We couldn't make small talk at all. Eventually Piper, Meredith, and I left to do other things. While we were were out, I texted him asking if we could talk without Piper and Meredith. He agreed that this would be a good idea, and we met up in his floor's lounge an hour later. We had a really deep conversation about what we thought about our relationship and forgot about everyone else's opinions. I won't share with you the details of this conversation because I believe it to be personal between Ethan and I, but know that we both really believe that we can make this work. So now we don't really know where we're at. We're trying to go on group hangouts with Piper and Meredith to learn more about each other and it seems to be going pretty well. I guess we'll just see where that takes us in the long run. <3 Ellie You guys are most likely used to Ellie giving the relationship advice from her relationship with Ethan, but she decided it would be nice for me to share my advice. When Ellie has trouble with Ethan, she comes to Meredith and I, and normally I give stellar advice. Yes, sometimes, it is not the best advice, but most of the time it is spectacular advice.
I've had only a few relationships, and as you can guess both ended in heart break. I've learned from both relationships, good things and bad things. Ill share those embarrassing moments with all of you in order to improve your own relationship.You should: Learn from my mistakes and gain from my memories. New Posts Coming Soon! -Xoxo Piper ClothingExpectation: Wearing super cute & sexy outfits which turn heads when you walk byReality: Sweatpants. That is it.Waking up in the morning, I literally have no energy. Sweatpants slip on and take no effort to wear. College students practically wear sweatpants 3 of the 5 days of the school week, unless you're Ellie who wears a cute outfits everyday. Its ridiculous, but anyways. You will pack a bunch of cute outfits, but once you get to college, you will rotate between 5 sweatpants and a couple of t-shirt. Starting off carrying about looks, by the second day of college you will not give fucks.
-Xoxo Piper "Give a girl the right pair of shoes and she'll conquer the world." -Marilyn Monroe I love cardigans. My closet is literally almost all cardigans. Piper and Meredith will tell you that I wear one almost every day because I love them so much. You can pair them with almost anything and they're really comfy! Scarves take up the rest of my closet mostly. They can also be paired with almost anything. And there are different kinds that you can wear in the summer or the winter. Leggings can be difficult. You have to pair them with the right top in order to make them not look slutty. For me, I only wear leggings if my top covers at least some of my butt. If I'm wearing a t-shirt, I'll wear jeans instead. If I'm not wearing leggings, I'll definitely be wearing miss me jeans. The "easy skinny" dark wash ones are my absolute favorite! Tall boots are the best. These are my go to footwear for the fall/winter. They keep your feet warm and look stylish.
<3 Ellie When you are young, you don't realize the little things don't matter. When your parents don't allow you to play with your friend because you have class the next day, or when you have to wake up early to go to church instead of sleeping in. If you were to ask me right now if I even remember those events of my life, I would tell you no. But as i have become grown up, I have realized how many of those events I was so held up on when I was little, but didn't need to be. If I had a time machine, I would go back in time, to multiple times in my life, to tell myself not to stress the little things, because I would be sweating the bigger stuff when I got older.
if I had a time machine, I would travel back in time to.... Fifth Grade: When you are in fifth grade you rule the school. You are the "Big kid." If I could go back in time, I would tell myself you are not as old as you feel. Being 10 years old is nothing compared to when you somehow end up 19 when you swore you were just starting Kindergarten. I would tell myself this is the time of your life. you don't have a lot of homework, you still have one class, and the hardest thing you have to do is long division (Which is still hard for myself as a college student). The hardest thing about Fifth grade is probably having a bed time, and not being able to stay in elementary school forever. I was a girl who did not want to go to middle school. 6th Grade: 6th Grade is when your life changes. When you enter the halls of your middle school. you enter a whole different world. When I walked into my middle school, I didn't know what to expect. There were new faces, and new things. There were girls in my school who had "Blossomed" (I had been one of them, actually I had been one of them since 3rd grade). And there were boys. Boys were different now, because they were "growing up" Too. It seemed like once I stepped into middle school, everyone was dating someone else. By dating, I mean holding hands as you walked to class and having your parents drop you off at home. That was something else. You gain your independence as your parents allow you to be dropped at the mall for three hours by yourself. The first time I went to the mall was with my best friend, and we both felt so independent because we didn't require our parents to be with us, although they still gave us money to go shopping with. If I were to go back to 6th grade, I would remind myself I am not as cool as I seem. Just because you are in a new school and are older than the elementary schoolers, you are not as cool as you seem. Also, remember not to try and grow up too fast. You don't need a boyfriend in middle school. they don't count anyway. I would remind myself, that believe it or not, middle school does not matter. College will not be looking into what you did in middle school, when I don't think its even possible to see what your grades are. 8th Grade: Yes, when you are in 8th grade you are so old. You are going to be in high school next year! But while you are here you might as well enjoy the fun 8th grade activities you are allowed to participate in. You also might as well enjoy watching all of the 6th and 7th graders staring at you with envy as you walked to your eighth grade locker. If I was going to tell myself of something as I was in 8th grade, I would remind myself, although I was on top of the world, like in 5th grade, I was going to start at the bottom again. I would also tell myself not to be afraid of high school like I was. Just because you were going to a different school doesn't mean you are going to lose your friends or be anything but you! Although you are going to be be going to a school that is atlas four times bigger than your middle school, that doesn't mean anything is going to change. Freshman Year: Yes, you are the shit. Literally. You are in high school. You are in the big kids school. Elementary schoolers run from you because of how big you are (Thats not funny I promise). But it is probably the moment in your life when you realize you only have so long before you have to go into the real world, and start acting like an adult. If I were to tell myself something about high school, it would be that none of this is going to matter in ten years. I would tell myself high school does matter, and you need to buckle down. Senior Year: Yes, for me it was literally four months ago I was still on top of the world, but now here I am starting back on the bottom for the fourth time. I would still tell myself certain things if I had the chance to go back and tell myself what I have learned over the last year of my life. I would tell myself it honestly won't matter. What happens to you in high school, it won't matter by the time you are 30, married and with children. The boys/girls who you say you love then they go and break your heart? They won't matter. The girls who you called your best friends then they stabbed you in the back? They won't matter. The boys you crushed on at work? They won't matter. Although you stayed up countless nights wishing you were were with the "perfect guy," by the time you are married, you will be committed to the perfect guy and that boy from senior year will be a memory. Remember to live your life, because you don't want to have to look back on your life, and regret decisions you made when you were eighteen. Love, Meredith |
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